GIRLFRIENDS GUIDE TO CULTIVATING GRACE AND ELEGANCE

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When you exude grace and dignity it opens many doors for you because you exude a self-assuredness that draws people to you. If you feel like you lack this – it can be cultivated. I have girlfriends who keep me in check and here are a couple of ways:

DO NOT GOSSIP:

Not gossiping makes you a powerful role model. Not gossiping means your efforts are directed at more fun and productive subjects. Go about your business with poise without being drawn into gossip, defend people who are not present by pointing out that the person they are talking about is not present to defend themselves. Friends defend each other.

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MAKE LIFE A FORMAL AFFAIR:

In an African traditional context we have formalities that we observed or still observe. For instance, family meals were a time of gathering and sharing. Sometimes the eldest would eat first and the rest would follow, it just depends on the family. Either way, meal times can be a great place to start with bringing in some formality into our lives. Formality being structure, predictability and good manners.

Meals can be scheduled to be eaten around the same time. This creates predictability for the family and avoids them snacking as they look forward to a beautiful meal. A meal served with your best dishes – yes – the ones we reserve for special guests. Lay the table beautifully and add flowers and cloth napkins. Meals can be the time to catch up with family without technology disrupting – no phones, no TV. Even if you leave alone it is a great time to catch your breath and savour your meals. You deserve it.

BE WELL READ

Be well read and read widely from the classics to current literature. Be au fait with current events as it makes you more interesting. Cut down on time spent in front of the TV and replace some of that time getting lost in a good book and in great conversations.

EXPLORE THE ARTS

Museums, theatres, art exhibitions, poetry sessions, comedy shows and live shows are great places to cultivate some culture. As a student I loved the Grahamstown Arts Festival – a great meeting point for art lovers from free shows to epic productions. Art speaks to both the heart and intellect.

DRESS WELL TO HONOUR YOURSELF

Find your style and make the effort to honour yourself by dressing well all the time. Even when you are just at home avoid the temptation to wear tatty clothes, honour those around you by dressing well.

BE MYSTERIOUS

With social media as part of our everyday lives it is so easy to over-share. Resist the temptation. Some aspects of your life should only be known to family and very close friends. Cultivating an air of mystery is intriguing.

BE A GREAT FRIEND AND SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU

I am blessed with great driven friends who keep me in check and who expect nothing but the best from me. Surround yourself with great people who help you cultivate grace.

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All the best with opening new doors for yourself!

Photo credits: My friends

By Taz

The mission of this blog is to inspire you to find inspiration in your daily life to live your best life and curate this life deliberately daily. The blog aims to challenge you to have an inspired life in your: career intellectual pursuits your style your beautiful home your creation of your beautiful life. Come on the journey with me and let me know what you think along the way.

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    Aphiwe

    Beautiful article!!
    I’ve always assumed that it takes alot of effort to be elegant and graceful….thank you for the confirmation!
    i want to challenge myself for a week to follow the guidelines and see where it will take me…my biggest fear is consistency and laziness

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      Taz

      Thank you so much Aphiwe. You are absolutely right, you can use small steps to cultivate grace and elegance and once you start – it becomes a natural part of who you are.
      All the best and remember small comfortable steps!

      warm regards
      Taz

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